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That said- Yeah. You can leave the discussion. Think about it some more- theres no shame in being wrong or in changing your mind.
Only one side here has argued that their opponents are all irrational because they have periods. Only one side as argued that there should be discrimination in education and employment. No wonder women want to escape this rank misogyny. Maybe youd treat us more like equals if we all identified as non-binary- i doubt it though.
At some point this becomes a contest of which side causes or suffers more harm, and most societies seem to be struggling to cope with formulating compromises.
And the more extreme fringes of neither side seem to accept those concerns, and public debate then often becomes hostile, as this thread too seems to have become.
The implication of the argument is pretty clear- if you dare disagree with us woman- we will call you irrational and hysterical because your material body has periods. The thing healthy female bodies do- which if they didnt - you and I wouldnt be born. And I might add- the thing only female bodies do. I know men think periods are gross and signs of illnesses- but every woman knows that she needs to go to a doctor to get herself checked out if she is routinely missing periods. Theyre the sign of a healthy body. But go ahead- laugh it off all that male centred bigotry.
You dont think its hate speech because its directed at women- who you think are more powerful than men who say theyre women. You need to introspect.
But you've said what you need to and while you and others on both sides have made a few thought provoking points, and there are serious issues surround open discourse and debate around how society and policy and the medical profession should deal with it, this thread kinda proves why it's so hard: it often seems to come down to us vs them, from both camps, and anger.
Are there no commonalities between both camps, if we ignore the more extreme fringes of both, and can agree on mutual respect, acceptance and kindness? It might not solve all the issues but that does leave a lot of space in between.
You dont accept any of these claims unquestioningly- theyre all about oppression- why do you accept claims about gender unquestioningly?
I dont accept that there are any genders. I dont want any genders- my utopia is a world where anyone can dress speak and behave any way they want without fear. But that dress, speech and behaviour wouldnt change material realities about sexed bodies. And females are on average weaker than males. Males have shown male pattern criminality. thats true regardless of self image. thats all im saying.
Do you realise that where this trans movement leads is for kids who might be gay - who will inevitably during puberty feel like they might be better off being the opposite sex and being heterosexual- will be encouraged to transition? Did you listen to susie green the CEO of mermaids who was so upset at having a gay son she decided he was in the wrong body and got him surgeries and hormones when he was a minor? Please read Hannah Barnes' time to think and the Cass review. Read the Shellenberger leaks of the gender identity services in england- the nurses and doctors are joking about how there wont be gay kids left in a few years because theyre all transitioning now. Do you think its a good think its okay for lesbians to only like other females? that would be transphobic. Because sex doesnt matter- only internal gender feelings do according to this doctrine. Look it up- theres a riley j denis video from early trans activist years claiming just that- they have a word for it- its the cotton ceiling- cause of womens underwear. Do you think its a coincidence that lgbt organisations are now calling lesbians "non-men" who love other "non-men"? Because same sex attraction is transphobic now. Isnt that homophobic? Look this stuff up if you like. More gay men and lesbians are on the gender critical side than you even think. Old school lesbians like Julie Bindel, Kathleen Stock, Katie Herzog, old school gay men like Fred Sargent- people who started the stonewall riots- theyre all critical of this stuff. Do you think theyre all just bigoted?
Look up the giggle v tickle case. Apparently lesbians cannot have a dating app all to themselves without excluding male bodied people anymore- that would be transphobic. Youre not on the right side of history.
You need to educate yourself.
The claims you make regarding mental illness are clearly not something that can be adequately discussed here, if your basic argument is that being trans is always a mental illness or caused by mental illness.
We can't answer here what OPs friends are going through, nor can we generalise that all trans people are like OPs friends, or that OPs account is even a fair one. So let's park this discussion, it seems to have run it's course and you've had your say and is unfortunately not constructive anymore.
So if it is hate speech when written about women, why is it not when said about trans people?
Unless I'm misunderstanding their intent here...
If a trans person didnt get surgeries - we should not accept them as trans? are you a truscum or a transmedicalist? you said that the proof of these identities is in behaviour- what if the behaviour is absent?
Clearly you didnt make that argument in good faith. You and I both know these are not claims about anything social or behavioural- these are claims that are individual and psychological. How is it then not fair to ask if the chicken or the egg came first? did the slew of mental illnesses come first and then the dysphoria? or did the dysphoria come first? is it in fact- a real genuine identity claim to be taken at face value? or could it be something that is not that?
No one here has said a single thing about non-binary people that you have- no one said they should be discriminated at the workplace, or that they shouldnt work or go to law school, or that they are irrational because theyre non binary. Or that theyre not equal to everyone else.
Exactly the opposite. People are enquiring very gently if mental illnesses- complex mental illnesses could have as one of their symptoms non-binary identification/ trans identification or gender dysphoria. and people are insisting that non-binary people are just the same as everyone else- just as special as everyone else.
If you could show me science that proved women really were so irrational and emotional during their period that they went beyond the range of anything a man might do or say- then I would agree that maybe women shouldnt be handling nukes. Can you show me that? wheres the study?
If you could prove to me- through empirical data that women are really bad at law school and shouldnt go and are really bad at practicising laws and shouldnt do it. I might change my mind. It so happens that you are just wrong about that- nearly every batch ive seen in law school- and ive seen more than 9 because I went back several times- women outperform men in exams and in competitions and after law school- they simply seem to have better careers on average than men do. They incur a disadvantage if they have babies- but thats something we need to figure out if we can or should do something about.
Will you subject your group to the same scrutiny? what youre essentially threatening here is - we will be misogynistic and awful if you dont go along with this. Not so charming. Keep it up. Help more people come over to our side.
They say they are non-binary- and the only way to know they are nonbinary is because they say they are- that seems like an identity claim to me. You want people to unquestioningly accept these claims. Playing word games wont change whats actually happening.
Butler isnt too much- you want to go? shall I begin to ask questions? Just give me the green light. its not that i didnt understand- I disagreed. Which is a thing we get to do in free societies.
No one is claiming alok vaid menon doesnt exist. or that he isnt human. People are disputing the claim that he isnt a man because he says so.
You want everyone to affirm non-binary beliefs because you think that leads to a better world. People disagree- sometimes validating claims about internal states of mind is not the best thing you can do.
What is hateful about this speech? that you hate it? No one here has called for harming anyone? or for thinking of anyone as less human- there is simply a question of whether these identity claims are to be seen as credible and genuine or as pleas for attention from mentally ill people- whether we should take these claims at face value and shut up about it or whether we should be skeptical.
Please show me the mammal that goes to the vet to get a sex change operation or the animal that cares about pronouns. I would be happy to change my mind. You would not be happy with the lack of evidence you find.
Are sex and gender roles not as strongly linked as some would argue? yes. Obviously. There are women who like work and are ambitious and cutthroat and there are men who want to take care of babies and old people. Where we disagree is that that makes them less of a woman or less of a man. You seem to be arguing that it does- explain to me why you are so wedded to gender ?
sorry- so i understand- a short haircut and fashion choices and surgeries to you- mean that one is not the sex one is? so butch lesbians are not women to you? flamboyant gay men are not men for you? you sure youre being kind or woke or progressive with that stance? Sure youre not homophobic there? I would think- whatever fashion choices one might make- even surgeries- one remains the sex one is born as. If i go get a haircut and only wear sweats and hoodies that would make me a man? or non binary? because theres something inherent in women that draws them to high heels and spinny skirts? a gendered soul? does the same thing draw women to babies and home making? should all women who want to pursue careers have to transition to men or non binary then?
I absolutely think body modification including liposuctions are awful and harmful and people shouldnt do them. Why would you imagine different? I also think people clearly die and experience great distress because of things like non-binary nullification surgeries and sex change surgeries. Please read the damn cass review, read the studies out of netherlands, read articles in the AUA journal that indicate that trasitioning increases suicidality. Read Andrea Long Chu in the new yorker who said he didnt feel suicidal until he started transitioning. Please go watch Jazz Jennings and go watch scott newgent talk. I want to live in a world where no one has to feel like they have to get these disastrous cosmetic interventions to fit in. You want to live in a world where there are no tomboys and no feminine men cause they would all transition by getting surgeries and exogenous hormones.
Read the damn cass review- they were sterilising gay and autistic kids because of gender expression- what a regressive awful thing to do - literally conversion therapy- because you had to believe in gendered souls.
Social sanction exists - very often- in religious movements- for disbelief and skepticism. "not being kind" is your version of "keep sweet and obey". If I dont agree with you you feel free to censor me instead of revising and making your arguments better or even genuinely trying to understand why anyone might disagree. You are the authoritarian.
No one here is being unkind of cruel to people they dont know- except- I would argue- people who perpetuate harmful gender stereotypes like you do.
I am actually listening and responding- youre the one censoring people because theyre saying things you dont like.
I think when we ignore material realities like sex in the real world- in favor of these fanciful unprovable gender souls idea- then you have disastrous circumstances. you have the erasure of womens rights and the breaking of womens solidarity. you have protections for women erased from the law. That actually causes actual violence.
I absolutely have educated myself. I have spent years now reading about this stuff. I am sorry but the condescension is exhausting- you dont think someone could disagree with you because they might know something you dont? How smug and self assured and close minded is that. Do you think I wanted to be dissenting to something like this? do you think i like being disagreeable?
Have you educated yourself? have you read the Cass review? or Helen Joyces book? or Kathleen Stocks book? Have you educated yourself?
Just like homosexuality, fluid genders, transgenderism and transexualism exists in animals too: https://daily.jstor.org/transgender-proclivities-in-animals/
And if homosexuality can be proven by external behaviour, so can any other 'queer' external expression, whether that goes to surgery or lifestyle or your fashion or haircuts.
Anorexia might be tempting to compare and might seem to share some similarities on its face, but for one, it literally kills people. But someone getting liposuction or other plastic surgery because they might erroneously feel they're fat or want to be a supermodel does not attract society's judgment or your opprobrium? So why would any surgery or such beliefs that have to do with gender or genitals?
Finally, yes, social sanction already exists for not being kind, so most people try not to be dicks to each other. So please be kind and don't rail about moderation or categorically deny the existence of trans as a 'thing', which sounds like a dog whistle and something that is potentially unkind and cruel to people you might not know. You can do better if you want to genuinely engage on the issues and have genuine questions, rather than wanting to prove only your opinion is valid.
2. Just be nice. Don't view things as transactionally as your comment seems to indicate you are doing. Maybe send a message on his birthday or some other special occasion. Even if not transactional, don't worry about being so overly formal. I think you can impress much more by balancing formality with kindness than being some stuffed-shirt pain-in-the-neck.
Always say something like 'Nifty 50 information technology company' rather than Infosys.
No one wears a tie unless client meeting / conference.
I don't even know tie brands. Most expensive tie I own is one Satya Paul which I only brought because i had a gift card to burn. Wear whatever looks good on you, neat and professional.
It happens with both genders, and both genders are equally liable to debauchery or simple hormones. It's just that males have, throughout history, been liable to misuse their position of relative power over females to negate consent for stuff. Women's thoughts and sexuality have been repressed since time immemorial.
You don't think males congregate together and say "kya hot thi bhai voh bandi" or "XYZ bollywood actress was really hot!". If you don't say anything towards the males who say that (even in higher positions of power), then you have no right to question the women who objectify males.
Females still are pretty disadvantaged in society
if feminists are after equal rights, why are they not protesting against this attitude of female actresses- after all this liberty far exceeds equality since males can't ever think of saying something like this.
so jahan zaada rights mile vahan theek hai but jahan kam miley vahan equal hona chahiye?
not trying to stir up a debate but as a newbie into this concept called feminism, i really want to listen to what feminists have to say about this - once again, i am open to being schooled on this topic, i just feel that maybe i am missing something here. would love to hear some thoughts. btw i am myself a firm believer in feminism but this is one incident that i just cant ignore - i want to know the logic. feel free to do this debate in a civilised manner guys/girls.
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Foucault was a pedophile- but hes a god for them.
The left hates women as much as the right- but no one cares because we're attached to our teams. The right thinks women are private property and the left thinks women are public property.
If you want to be a good person- ideally you know to take the good and sensible stuff from their arguments and discard the rest.
Is the fact that Russia as a dictatorship is nominally a Christian state relevant? Or that China is a anti-religious? Religion is only one aspect of power and history and accident, it's rarely the totality as you seem to imply.
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Heard really bad reviews. Please confirm.
Were all these things about women in female bodies then? or were hindus confused about non binaries before the evil white man came? youre so ill informed and so smug- you think these are desirable qualities?
Literally every society in the world has different words for man and woman- this isnt about western prudishness- its about human bodies you ▮▮▮. We also have different words for male and female animals of most species. that wasnt an invention of the west. sanskrit pali kannada tamizh telugu hindi all have gender baked deep into the language- that wasnt because of the british.
you should learn to critically think instead of just consuming nonsense written by post modernists who will tell you they dont care about whats true.
My family recognised that I was still in a relatively good position, just that I would need to work harder to get to where I am now as a recent graduate vs if I were in NLS. I am proud for reaching where I am, but I also recognise that luck was a factor as well in this shitty job market.
Even in T3, be in the top 3-4 of your batch, there can be no excuses. Your parents just want to be able to boast that "my kid went to NLS/NALSAR". Fuck that, you do you. Embrace your past, climb to the future.
OP, if you are reading this, not to dampen your enthusiasm or anything mate, but from what I have heard, they can get pretty nasty down there. An acquaintance of mine who is blind studied there and was prevented by a classmate, who played a trick which was way below the belt with my blind acquaintance's technology, from participating in an online competition (I won't provide further details here, because I share the mods' anxiety about potentially revealing identifiable information). For everyone other than OP, do all the shouting you like about this being a one-off and perhaps you might even be right, but also reflect on what that (somebody thinking it is okay to take advantage of a disabled person, in supposedly one of the nation's top law schools, in 2024) reveals about the place and its atmosphere.