‘Wake-up call to firm owners’: HSF India head Chris Parsons talks to Balbir Singh about alcoholism, depression, mental health in the legal profession [VIDEO]

HSF India chief Chris Parsons talks openly about what many in India still would rather not ever have to ever talk about
HSF India chief Chris Parsons talks openly about what many in India still would rather not ever have to ever talk about

These days there are probably few if any lawyers who, locked up at home for weeks and often 24 hours a day, has not pondered about their mental health.

It is something we should be pondering a lot more often and speaking out about, according to Herbert Smith Freehills (HSF) India head Chris Parsons.

Parsons recently talked about his own and the legal profession’s wider challenges in dealing with alcoholism, anxiety and depression in a video interview with Delhi-based senior advocate (and former DSK Legal senior partner) Balbir Singh.

“On the face of it, you know, you’d have assumed that I was the sort of the archetypical success story,” Parsons recounted to Singh. “On the face of it I had a good job, I just been promoted to equity partner, you know the ultimate goal if you like, within a firm like Herbert Smith [as it then was], I had a nice home, I had three lovely boys.”

And even his father was at least a little bit proud of him.

But in reality, inside feelings of anxiety and depression he could not control were taking their toll on him, he told Singh. Parsons said he had started working even harder and self-medicating with alcohol to the point of alcoholism, creating a somewhat vicious cycle.

Parsons said: “That’s the sadness with with depression: is that you can’t see into somebody’s mind, you can’t see into their pain, whilst everything may look fine, it often isn’t and the danger is, I think, in the whole mental well-being space, is that it’s very easy to be able to point at somebody else and saying, ‘but look they’re all right’, ‘they’re coping like me’.

“And of course it looked like I was coping, it looked like I was fine, it looked like […] I had all of the attributes of somebody who should be fine.”

Back then, around 1995 in the UK, said Parsons, things with respect to mental health were “probably a little bit like India today”. “Nobody talked about this stuff,” he said, “people were embarrassed to engage on this topic, I was embarrassed to engage on this topic.”

The narrative that he had built up for himself and that others had in part willingly helped him build, was that “Chris had been working too hard and needed recharge his batteries”. “And that was a narrative that I was happy to support because it it was a narrative consistent with a successful partner who just been working too hard, [instead of actually saying] there were much deeper troubles,” he said.

But Parsons has changed this narrative and for several years now has become an active ambassador for mental health, particularly in the UK legal profession as well as at HSF.

“Part of my story is a story of hope, that there is life after depression,” Parsons said, noting that the majority of people recover from mental ill-health.

He was doing much better now with his alcohol addiction under control and his depression and anxiety more manageable, though both required constant vigilance and self-awareness. For Parsons, he said, “aspects of lawyering were a trigger”, but it took him many years to realise that about himself. “Leaders need to change their attitude,” said Parsons about the best way of improving mental health care in the legal profession, and that “leaders have a responsibility to acknowledge” the issues.

And at HSF, for instance, change had been more rapid than expected after Parsons was amongst those spearheading more dialogue. “Not only have partners spoken out about mental health issues, but also secretaries, associates, trainees [have shared their stories] with 6,000 employees at HSF globally.

“And they were willing to do it because a) they felt the culture was accepting of it, and I think most brave of all, to believe that it would not affect their careers.”

It was “extraordinary how quickly things can change”, with much of the improvements having only happened in very recent years, said Parsons about the UK legal industry and the wider business landscape. “It ought to wake-up call to owners of businesses and law firms in particular,” Parsons noted. “Because […] what we’re talking about here is that actually if they can build an environment where people feel safer better and that their mental health issues are taken account of, they could also build much more resilient and actually much more ultimately profitable organisations.”

In a way, that’s a no-brainer: a workforce that is suffering from fewer mental health issues and is supported by the organisation they work at, is likely to be more productive and more engaged with the firm culture.

Singh noted in the interview that as far as mental health issues go, “there is no backup” in India for most lawyers.

Parsons agreed, though he added: “There has definitely been some movement in a Indian law firm community around trying to address mental horizon.” He said that he’d had positive discussion with Indian law firms about the issues though he is not sure what progress has been tangibly made in practice.

Parsons was the first video interview of Singh’s, who has recently started a website called Live View Point, as a bit of a lockdown hobby project, where he intends to carry video interviews that would hopefully be interesting to the legal profession and others under lockdown, with an “objective of creating collective wisdom and thought process to enable professionals to deal with concerns and show some light in future”.

Watch the edited 30-minute conversation between Singh and Parsons below.

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Comments

macallan 11 May 2020, 14:49
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similar to the series 'Suits' !
the usual 11 May 2020, 17:15
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the D word is a stigma everywhere probably more so in UK (really not just on paper and talk) where they know people have less
support. this includes social emotional and home staff than in india. typically.
it is good UK is acknowledging the D. but not true that it is all accepted in UK and in india it is a stigma.
he can afford to say this as he is near close to his career close and very successful with almost grown up kids.
Worker bee 11 May 2020, 17:20
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Don't cut our salaries and we will be just fine. No need for this mental health cra...
What should be done 11 May 2020, 17:41
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Law firms management should seriously look at retiring partners/executive directors above who are above the age of 58 years. This will chiefly serve two purpose: (i) allow these partners/EDs the family time that they intend to and look forward to at this stage of their lives at the same time keeping them safe from covid-19; and (ii) will create space for organic growth of the firm where the yonger lots would get the opportunity to take up the mantle - this will also make financial sense for the firm.
Observer 11 May 2020, 17:50
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Daru Nahi meditation is required. Worldly success has no capacity to fulfill deeper being.
Guest 11 May 2020, 21:16
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Chris is such an amazing human being. If you meet him once, you'll remember him for the rest of your life.
Guest 11 May 2020, 22:13
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Time to bring in foreign law firms
Yes! Correct! 14 May 2020, 10:53
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Because that is the magic pill that will save India from the Covid pandemic, save Indian lawyers from depression, make India a Global Superpower, and eliminate the risk of a nuclear war!
Been there done that 12 May 2020, 12:42
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If bullying and petty office politics is taken care of, mental health and work cultures would improve dramatically. Often, senior partners and bosses turn a blind eye to such bullies. Further, coming out into the open about battling depression and anxiety is often looked upon as a sign of weakness or an excuse for not being able to cope.
Guest 12 May 2020, 12:55
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So much strength in being so vulnerable. If more people spoke as candidly, the world would feel a less scary place. So much light comes from such a dark place. Thank you for sharing.
Made up Story 13 May 2020, 11:11
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Hi All. It is actually embarrassing to tell that you are depressed. I am myself fighting somewhere between sanity and depression, every single day. I really wanted to share this, but I guess I cant publicly. I do not have the strength to face the public embarrassment. I work with one of the Big 6/7, one of the bigger ones. I was married early due to family pressures and had a very troubled arranged marriage for 3-4 years, so much so that I made my office my home. I really buried myself in my work, with my team – and things were good at office. My boss liked me, my team enjoyed working with me, my other colleagues knew me as a jovial, approachable and friendly person. But I still wasn’t happy. Deep down, I was very very sad and depressed. I never wanted to go home. At times, I got out of office and still drove around for long before heading home to either sleep of binge on Netflix. The idea was to not face my wife, if she is in the bedroom I am on Netflix, if she is out of the bedroom, then I am sleeping. It was bad, really really bad. Never smoked in my life, but somehow around my marriage I caught a very bad smoking addiction, smoking an entire pack every day. The money was flowing, I had begun to fall into the new normal, wife was comfortable with the money and had nothing for me, I was keeping up with my office and smoking routine – and deep down I was dying every day. Sometimes, people were able to spot that something is wrong. But, like a true blue blooded corporate lawyer, I was able to brush it under the carpet.

Then one day I mustered some long lost courage and decided to end my marriage (this was not the first thought, I wanted to address the situation though it ended up in a divorce). I spoke to my wife over a period of months, and we mutually decided to part ways.

Post my divorce, this girl joined my team. She was very pretty, very sweet, headstrong, balanced, everything you could ask for. As you would have guessed by now, both of us fell for each other. I don’t want to go into the details, but it happened over a course of an entire year. It was love, not just some office romance. She was willing to marry me, and I her. All this was now looking like a real possibility - finally a good and happy life. Her only conditions were that I quit smoking and get out of a personal (and very troublesome and toll taking) situation that I cant describe here. Let’s call it - the Situation. I pretty much gave up smoking over a period of 5-6 months. But we were now having troubles, we were fighting every other day over the Situation. I was unable to get out of the Situation, because of the COVID lockdown (still stuck in it). Every time we broke up (which was happening a lot), I had this strong urge to smoke. Twice I gave in to smoking. I also got to see a new side of hers – crazy angry side – ‘slapped me twice when she saw me smoke’ (no joke, these were real tight slaps - but, as I am good at it, I am brushing it under the carpet). The thing was, she was also going through the same depression that I was, and she was also losing it. She never had these crazy act outs before, but now she was having one every other day. The relationship was getting more and more poisonous everyday. Both of us now wanted out, but both of us are heavily invested in each other – and really really love each other. She faced her side of the problems, convincing her family to marry a divorcee, letting go of several ‘better’ arrange marriage proposals, and several other things. I don’t even know what is holding us together now.

Thanks to all this, I am sinking into something. I don’t even know whether its depression. I am not looking to be judged. I have not even done justice to my story – summarising years in less than 1000 words. I have not done justice to her, in telling her side of the story. I just wanted to say something out loud.
Hey! 14 May 2020, 07:16
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To be fair, I did not understand much. But you need to seek help. Talk to friends/ family to begin with. Also, did you girlfriend hit you, for smoking? Leave her please. Breaking promise on smoking was not cool, you shouldn't have smoked / made that promise. But physical abuse is a strict NO, and goes both ways.
Same boat but better 14 May 2020, 09:14
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There there. Same boat- but in the past.

I was a top rated associate- smart and etc (all that gets you fat bonus and expedited career jumps). Told my partner- who said she supports and its a safe space. Maybe her intent was right. But she went ahead and discussed it with her firm confidantes/bff/partners on the same side, who are gossip mongers. Word spread - most people believed that I am “crazy” and “losing it”. They’d speak stuff behind my back - which I discovered later. As the firm politics would have it- the haters knew and apparently everyone knew. Used this, put me in impossible situations, questioned my credibility to even work as an intern (incorrectly- which I again discovered later when a former colleague met me) and branded me as incompetent crazy person- when I didn’t even work with them. Super vicious life there pulled me deeper into depression, until I quit for good. Most of my friends already had- citing mental health reasons. Glad that they did quit before it became a monster for them- like it did for me.

Glad I did.

Point is that even if you understand- you really don’t even if you act as a fiduciary and fuck the other person over by telling everyone else who may not. In law firms, these things really affect a person’s career trajectory and ofcourse, survival.
Bull shit 14 May 2020, 17:40
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While Chris is a great guy and mental health conversations are important (and many around the world are having these conversations), he can say all of this as he has not been close to a legal document in years. Perks of having a chairman or statesman type of a role at Herbert smith is that you don’t have to do any actual legal work while you can focus on walks, meetings etc. Interesting that unlike many US law firms and even Linklaters for that matter, Herbert smith has never (or may be once) made any Indian lawyer a partner. The diversity status at some of the English firms are truly shocking. I suppose many brown lawyers still don’t meet their “cultural” fit test not having gone to the “right” school or college or having the “right” accent (actual appraisal conversation). Do not underestimate the level of bull shit, patronising behaviour (white man’s burden) and faff that you get at many English firms. There is a glass ceiling for many Indian lawyers at firms like these. Follow the equity and you know the reality of any law firm. Don’t get me wrong - I like Chris. But this is not the whole story. The tragedy is that some Indian law firms behave in the same colonial manner. Indian lawyers in India or elsewhere deserve better treatment.
Irrelevant 17 May 2020, 00:06
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Sure. See your point. Just don’t see how it’s relevant to what Chris said. I’ve attended one of this sessions and he seems to be a genuine guy who like many Englishman, loves having an India connect. Whether Herbert Smith has an Indian or whatever, fact is when Chris disclosed his addiction issues to HS, they let him take up a country connect role and give up his M&A practice. That’s unheard of in Indian firms, where instead of being given such an option, someone with addiction will be talked about by everyone in the firm as spoiled goods. Maturity is in treating people as more than usable commodities, which in my view, foreign law firms have managed to achieve to some extent, of course not completely.

The conversation is about inability to address mental health in Indian law firms. This is a fact and just like Indian society, the standards expected at Indian law firms make it impossible for someone to even acknowledge that this problem exists. Senior partners lack emotional intelligence to not classify this as a performance problem, which is why junior lawyers are incapable of articulating for help when they need it. One can argue that addressing someone’s mental health is not the responsibility of an organization, but I’m afraid this sector and its participants actively contribute to such conditions so they can’t not be involved in the resolution.
Observer 16 May 2020, 04:25
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Dear friends of legal fraternity, We all experience some sort of conflict in our mind due to colliding of different kind of thoughts and after deciding on one, we move further. In one case, the reader has given details of his plight. We human beings are prone to experiencing such situation, from where, we do not see the solution clearly. This hazy state of mind, in which the speed of thoughts is fast but directionless, if persisted for a longer time, called as depression. If it reality and not the product perceived thinking then 'accepting' is a first step to come out from the conflict zone. In spiritual word(specially in Buddhism) mind is considered just myth and there is a journey of ' no mind' state and no journey is the better than the journey of inner self. Thousands of monks have demonstrated it for the last 3000 years but most of us are aware only about worldy journey with the aim of fulfilling our aspirations . So far so good, if you spend your whole life without experiencing any internal turmoil but when situation is not in your hand, why not try something proven like meditation, even after knowing well that alcoholism, smoking and filling life with worldly pleasure has not only limitations but also such habits may create negativity in a person.
#Katjubolare 16 May 2020, 05:35
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Hari Om.
Guest 17 May 2020, 15:15
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Video of Law Sikho controversy

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Guest 17 May 2020, 15:55
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Propaganda troll alert! To boldly spam where nobody has spammed before.
Guest 18 May 2020, 01:25
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Kian please DO NOT give oxygen to the LawSikho incident. It has been engineered by commercial rivals and feminist hypocrites.
Hello7 18 May 2020, 06:35
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In a small set up especially run by a sole proprietor there is this innate need to impress the boss and bosses take advantage of such situations and drive a wedge between employees making it even more difficult for team members to have honest and uninhibited discussions or conversations. There is this constant fear of your words and statements being misunderstood and misinterpreted. Happening more during this time when everyone is working from home. Certainly all of this affects mental health as sometimes it becomes difficult to segregate professional from personal.